February 2022

February 28 2022

Falling in Love With Your Partner Again-PT 2

In the last blog, we began the topic of falling in love again with your partner. This week, we’re continuing the topic and focusing on more ways to fall in love with your partner again and to rekindle your relationship.

Physical Affection

When you’re constantly busy, stressed, or distant from your partner, it’s easy to be less physical with one another. Make a conscious effort to not forget, postpone, or avoid physical affection. Physical affection is an expression of love that can strengthen the bond between you and your partner. Physical affection can release oxytocin and dopamine. This hormone and this neurotransmitter are responsible for feeling closer to your partner, for building trust, and happiness.

Be Attentive

Ignoring your partner may not always be intentional and with many other distractions in life, it can happen so easily and if you’re already frustrated with your partner, it’s easy to not pay attention to them. Make an effort to slow down and be more attentive. Look directly in your partner’s eyes when they’re speaking, put away electronic gadgets sometimes, and listen without interrupting or planning your next response. Your partner’s facial expressions, gestures, and body language could all be missed with your head down on your phone. As much as possible, be attentive to your partner’s nonverbal communication also.

Quality Time

Spending quality time with your partner is very valuable. Many couples don’t recognize that dedicating time to one another can nurture relationships by building intimacy, opening up the line of communication and strengthening bonds. Schedule date nights and alone time in your calendar. Take turns planning them with your partner and be sure to plan dates that you’d both enjoy. When conversing with one another during this alone time, stick to light, friendly topics, such as new hobbies & interests. Save talking about kids, bills, and relationship issues for another non-date night. Sometimes, date night might not seem feasible due to finances, scheduling, & other responsibilities, but remember that you can have a date night anywhere. You can bring a romantic night right to your home with dinner and a movie.

Stay Committed

Commitment is one of the foundations of serious relationships. Be committed to your relationship goals. Stay committed to being attentive, to showing physical affection, and planning date nights. Always be committed to nurturing your relationship. Whatever you agree on with your partner, commit to it.

Don’t assume that falling out of love means that it’s time to end the relationship. In relationships (especially relationships in trouble), falling out of love is very common. It’s critical to remember that at the beginning of your relationship, there were certain actions, made by both you and your partner, that caused you to fall in love. The same is true for falling back in love. The only difference is that now, you must be more deliberate and intentional.

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February 8 2022

Falling in Love With Your Partner Again

Editor Relationship Advice

Some assume that falling out of love means that it’s time to end the relationship, but you may not wake up every day feeling as in love with your partner as the first time you did.

It’s critical to remember that at the beginning of your relationship, there were certain actions, made by both you and your partner, that caused you to fall in love. The same is true for falling back in love. The only difference is that now, you must be more deliberate and intentional. You must work to keep your love alive.

Below are a few ways to begin reconnecting with your partner to help you get that spark back.

Forgiveness

Making mistakes is inevitable and we all, at some point, need forgiveness. Forgiveness is important for the success of a relationship and it’ll be challenging to move forward in a relationship if you don’t forgive your partner. It’s counterproductive to not forgive while trying to work on the relationship. If held onto long enough, unforgiveness can become bitterness, frustration, resentment. Love can’t thrive in the same environment.

If your goal is to work it out, trying to get back at your partner will only extend the pain and stifle hope for progress in your relationship. Seeking revenge won’t change what happened and it’s very unlikely to change how you feel. Forgiving isn’t always easy. Whenever thoughts of the pain or betrayal come to mind, don’t dwell on them.

Kindness

Try your best to be kind to your partner. Your partner may even begin to mimic your behavior as well. It’s hard to be hostile and angry when someone is being nice, open, and soft towards you. Showing kindness towards your partner might not immediately result in them doing exactly what you want, but being soft and kind to one another are the beginning stages of opening yourselves up to be more receptive to one another’s thoughts and feelings.

Common Interests

Personal interests can change over the course of a relationship. It’s normal and completely okay. Couples aren’t required to have all of the same interests in order to achieve a successful relationship. It’s even okay for couples to pursue their own personal interests/hobbies, but the issue is when one partner begins feeling disconnected or even bored in the relationship. This can put a strain on the relationship and even make a person question whether they’re even compatible.

Remember that life, as well as people, are ever-changing. Try new experiences and hobbies with your partner. If the first few tries aren’t a good fit for you both, don’t get discouraged and don’t hesitate to keep trying. Consider this as an opportunity for and adventure and quality time. Newfound interests will give you and your partner a lot to talk about and connect with.

Showing Appreciation

Showing appreciation is essential to nurturing a healthy relationship. There are so many ways to show that you appreciate your partner. 1-You could occasionally leave cute sticky notes around your home, telling your partner why you appreciate them. 2- Randomly buy thoughtful gifts. 3-Write a heartfelt letter, expressing to your partner how much they mean to you. 4- Take your partner out on dates. 5-Give them a break by offering to take on the household chores sometimes. 6-Book a relaxing couple’s spa. 7-Praise your partner in front of your friends and family. 8-You can even show appreciation by simply saying “Thank You” more.

Showing appreciation does not mean your relationship is perfect. Showing appreciation serves as a reminder of all the beautiful things about your partner. It can help to shift your focus from the negatives to the positives. Showing appreciation & praise can also motivate your partner to do more of what you’re appreciative of.

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