Speaking Your Partner’s Love Language
In the previous post, we began discussing the 5 Love Languages. Today, we’ll focus on speaking your partner’s love language.
Things to Remember About Love Languages:
-To speak their love language, you must understand what to say & what not to say.
-Even if someone else’s love language feels ridiculous, remember to respect how they feel. Yours may seem weird to someone else.
– Honest communication is the bedrock of a happy relationship. Communicate your feelings.
Understanding Their Language
WORDS OF AFFIRMATION-
Communicate through: Encouraging, affirming, appreciating, & empathizing. Listen actively.
Take These Actions: Send an unexpected note, text, or card. Encourage them genuinely and often.
Avoid Doing This: Non-constructive criticism, not recognizing or appreciating effort.
Communicate through: Non-verbal-use body language and touch to emphasize love.
Take These Actions: Hug, Kiss, Hold hands, show physical affection regularly. Make intimacy a thoughtful priority.
Avoid Doing This: Physical neglect, long stints without intimacy, receiving affecting coldly.
Communicate through: Thoughtfulness. Make your spouse a priority. Speak purposefully.
Take These Actions: Give thoughtful gifts. Express gratitude when receiving a gift. Small things matter.
Avoid Doing This: Forgetting special occasions, unenthusiastic gift receiving.
Communicate through: Uninterrupted and focused conversations. One-on-one time is crucial.
Take These Actions: Create special moments together, take walks and do small things with your spouse. Weekend getaways are huge.
Avoid Doing This: Being distracted when spending time together. Long stints without one-on-one time.
ACTS OF SERVICE-
Communicate through: Use action phrases like “I’ll help do…” They want to know you’re with them.
Take These Actions: Do chores together. Make them breakfast in bed. Go out of your way to help alleviate their daily workload.
Avoid Doing This: Making these requests of others a higher priority, lacking follow-through on tasks big and small.
A relationship in which both people can understand, respect, and appreciate each other is very fulfilling. If you want more, read The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman. Hopefully, this helps you and your spouse express love in a way the other feels it.