The holiday season can bring about many unexpected feelings. Many people try to hide or ignore these feelings in order to not disappoint…especially if it seems like everyone else has the holiday spirit. In this season, it’s important to remember that whatever feelings you have, it’s okay to be you. It’s okay to not be in the holiday spirit & it’s okay to not want to do what everyone else is doing. This holiday season, it’s okay to just be yourself. The rest of the world will be okay.
It’s Okay To Say No
The desire to please everyone this holiday season could result in you being exhausted, This year, you may be asked to host Christmas dinner, you may be asked to pick up a last-minute gift, you may be asked to host family members from out of town, asked to cook certain dishes, or even invited to a holiday party. If at any point you feel exacerbated or unhappy about doing any of this, remember that it’s okay to say no. There are many stores and restaurants that make great meals and if having certain family members in your home could disrupt your peace of mind, they could always stay in a hotel or with another family member. Practice saying no without feeling guilty or over-explaining. Maintaining a peace of mind is always a good enough reason.
It’s Okay To Be Happy
Birthdays, holidays, and other special days can be tough for some. They might have experienced the death of a loved one or another form of loss. Sometimes, the idea of being happy on those special days can make that person feel guilty. If this situation describes you, remember that you deserve happy days, even while grieving. If you lost a loved one, allowing yourself to be happy during the holidays doesn’t mean you’re forgetting your loved one. You can honor their memory even through being happy. If at any time, during this season, you feel even the slightest bit of holiday cheer, allow it and embrace it. Feeling guilt during the holiday season can also be due to remembering the disadvantaged & impoverished. Many people don’t have the access or ability to enjoy the holiday season. Remember that it’s okay to enjoy the fruits of you and your family’s labor (See “It’s Okay To Do Something Different & Special” for more ways to deal with the guilt).
It’s Okay To Be Sad
Maybe you’ve lost a loved one or maybe this year has just been hectic and you just need to relax. Whatever your reason is for not being in the holiday spirit, know that it’s okay to be sad. You may feel pressure from friends and family, strangers you see out, coworkers, and even the media to be jolly, but if you’re just not feeling it this year, it’s okay to take a break from it all and look after yourself. Just as it is okay to allow yourself to be happy, it’s also okay to allow yourself to be sad. You are allowed to feel a range of emotions. It’s even okay to not love everything about the holiday season.
It’s Ok To Do Something Different & Special
Certain traditions are typically followed during the holidays (going out to pick a tree, decorating the tree, singing carols, families going to the mall together…ect). Holiday traditions are fun, but you don’t have to always stick with them. If you’re getting tired of your same old traditions, do something different and special this year that makes you feel happy and fulfilled. You can donate money in memory of a loved one, you can volunteer at a homeless shelter, you can even take a trip to a tropical, warmer place and spend your holiday there. The spontaneity and breaking the mold can feel exciting. Don’t confine yourself to only going with the traditional flow of things.
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