Last week we talked about finding happiness in your self rather than other entities, like people, material things and careers. If you seek happiness in anything other than yourself, it’s not true, it’s temporary.
We even went into the various ways you can choose happiness on a day-to-day basis. And because you can never be too happy, I’ve come up with four more daily changes you make—for yourself, of course—to feel happier from within.
But before we get into that, here are some of my favorite quotes about happiness being a choice.
“Happiness is a choice, you cannot choose what happens, but you can choose your reaction to it and be happy.” –RVM
“If you want to be happy, tie it to a goal, not to people or things.” – Albert Einstein
“Happiness is not something ready-made. It comes from your own actions.” – Dalai Lama
“We all have happiness inside and it’s not at all hard to find. It’s sealed deep in our hearts and guarded by our soul. You don’t have to beg to use it. All you have to do is choose it!” – Bebeth
Here’s how you can achieve this in your everyday lifestyle.
Change Up Your Routine
Complacency can be easy to slip into, but it can also impact your mood. If you have a habit of staying late at work every day, going home eating dinner and heading to bed, there’s a lot of room to try something new. Join a book club, go to yoga after work, or take your coworker up on after-work drinks. Or maybe you head out with your friends to the same place after work every Friday—you can call up a friend you haven’t seen in a while or enjoy some alone time instead.
Figure out what new things you’d like to try and go for it. Stop waiting for the ‘right time’ to go after your passion; just start. The time is always now to do whatever makes you happy.
Gratitude is one of the most positive things we can do for others and ourselves. Sometimes life can throw a lot of negativity our way that it blinds us from all the good things we can be thankful for. Keeping a gratitude journal is one of my favorite ways to focus on the positive. Every day or once a week, write down at least one good thing that has happened to keep them top of mind. Anytime you feel like life is beating you down, you’ll have it as a reference to look back on. You can even keep a gratitude journal for your relationship to keep you and your partner happy.
Let Go of Grudges
This is a big one that prevents us from happiness. There’s a common misconception that choosing to stay mad at someone punishes him or her, but it actually affects you more. If someone hurts you and you hold a grudge, their life goes on and they may even be unfazed, whether they’ve apologized or not. But you’re still living with that anger and dwelling on the pain, which is holding you back from happiness. Letting go doesn’t mean they win and it doesn’t mean what they did was okay, but it does set you free from the hurt that you’re feeling.
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