June 2019

Relationships are beautiful but they take a lot of work to maintain. What makes it harder is when you and your partner feel as if you’re speaking different languages.  If this persists, it can ultimately create distance between you and your loved one. Hence the importance of knowing their love language. No matter how loudly you speak or how well you express yourself to your partner, all of your attempts may fall on deaf ears, if you aren’t speaking your partner’s love language.

In a nutshell, love languages are five ways that people speak and understand/interpret emotional love. Love languages are a concept developed by Gary Chapman, a marriage counselor & author of the bestseller book, The 5 Love Languages. The concept is based on his anecdotal research from 30 years of marriage counseling. The 5  love languages are: Words of Affirmation – Gifts – Acts of Service – Quality time – & Physical touch

Through our love languages, we express love. The meaning of love is not the same to everyone.  Therefore, the action of love is different for everyone.  Knowing how to speak the love language of your partner is critical to a successful relationship. Understanding the love language of your partner bridges the gap of miscommunication and misinterpretation of intentions. It can also provide insight into what means the most to you and your partner… and also what can hurt you the most.  

A person can have more than one language, but the key is finding the most dominant one. 
Knowing and understanding love languages can drastically change your perspective on your partner, your family, & your friends. Take time to devote attention to your partner and your other loved ones. Be sure to consider their love language communicating with them, when expressing love to them, and even when conflicts arise. 

These are just a few self-care acts that are often looked over. But there are endless things that you can do to take care of yourself, which will also help your relationship. We have a list of affordable and convenient self-care acts that will make it easy to put you first.

At CWC Coaching, our team consists of licensed therapists, life coaches, and counselors. We assist clients with self-improvement, career development, negative self-talk, psychological pain, self-sabotaging behavior, past hurts and finding your purpose. If you are ready to increase your self-awareness and happiness, breakthrough limiting behavior and understand your purpose in life, we’d love to help guide you on this journey.

Modern day society equates finances and physical appearance with the quality of a person. Unless you’re living somewhere off the grid, it can be challenging to not be, somehow, affected by mainstream society. But there’s so much more to offer in a relationship besides good looks and a lot of money. Below are 3 unique qualities that you can bring to the table that’ll enrich your relationship.

A PEACE OF MIND

Good looks are always a plus, there’s no denying that. However, possessing good looks doesn’t immediately equate to a strife-free relationship. Having a peaceful, strife-free relationship is important in order to grow together in a relationship. So, how does one bring peace of mind to a relationship?  To create peace in your relationship, you must first be at peace within yourself. How? By accepting your true self &  by enjoying and appreciating the present (rather than regretting the past and being stressed about the future). This, of course, is not to be in denial or ignore life’s issues. But rather, choosing to deal with the issues when it is time, and not being overwhelmed by then. It’s all a choice.

VULNERABILITY

Vulnerability is the driving force of connection in any relationship. It’s impossible to connect without it. Too often is vulnerability seen as weakness. The word alone can conjure thoughts of possibly being hurt. But the choice of vulnerability is actually a very brave one.  It’s true that allowing ourselves to be vulnerable comes with opening ourselves up to judgment and disappointment, however, vulnerability is the key to having closer, more intimate, and ultimately more satisfying connections.

SUPPORT

Being supportive can mean a lot of different things to a lot of different people. Your version of support may be completely different than your partner’s, but one thing’s for sure…everyone wants to feel supported. For you or your partner, support might be sweet, motivating texts throughout the work day, or maybe even preparing dinner after a long, tiring day. For others, support might be an encouragement to keep goals and to follow their dreams.  Before immediately delving into “full support mode”, be sure to ask your partner what support looks like to them… or you might end up doing more damage than good.
 Remember…in a relationship, it’s better to focus on who you are, rather than what you have. 

Sex life can fizzling out? the good news is there are ways to get it sizzling again. Take a look at your options.

At CWC Coaching, our team consists of licensed therapists, life coaches, and counselors. We assist clients with self-improvement, career development, negative self-talk, psychological pain, self-sabotaging behavior, past hurts and finding your purpose. If you are ready to increase your self-awareness and happiness, breakthrough limiting behavior and understand your purpose in life, we’d love to help guide you on this journey.

Let’s be honest, no matter how sexy you find your partner, there’s nothing sexy about financial irresponsibility.

It can be difficult to spot an issue when you’re head over heels in love with your partner– but have no fear!  I’m here to help you spot the financial red flags.

We’ve all chosen to ignore certain red flags in relationships and some red flags may be easy to spot. Financial red flags, however,  can take much longer to recognize.

Below are a few behavioral patterns to look out for.

The False Achiever

If you’re an adult and you live in the United States, you probably have ( or have had) credit card debt. It’s common, like a right of passage to becoming an adult. A partner with a large amount of credit card debt, however probably wasn’t on your wish list. Having credit card debt isn’t necessarily a red flag.
Someone who has racked up credit card debt because of unnecessary shopping and living way above their means is different than someone who has incurred credit card debt from emergency spendings due to unplanned unemployment.

Difficulties Maintaining Employment

Anyone can lose a job just as fast as they gain one. Staff reduction, company-wide layoffs,  & company relocation are a few reasons for job loss. Losing a job on its own is not a red flag.  What’s important is the reason for the job loss. A red flag indicator is a person who constantly loses jobs for trivial reasons–reasons such as absenteeism, problems controlling ones’ temper, & chronic lateness are all red flags.

Dishonesty

Lying can destroy the foundation of trust. If you find out that your partner is lying about their personal finances, you may feel angry, confused, and hurt. Remain as calm as possible during this conversation with your significant other. For many people, admitting a huge error is not always easy, especially when the other person is angry. Find out the reason for the lie in order to fully understand the gravity of the situation.
Discovering certain things about your partner can be very discouraging. Rather than immediately freaking out and running in the opposite direction, discuss financial matters and find out exactly why he/she is in the current state. This will help you to better understand the situation and give you more clarity on how to proceed.

Be vigilant. And above all else, keep an open mind and understanding heart.

Sex life can fizzling out? the good news is there are ways to get it sizzling again. Take a look at your options.

At CWC Coaching, our team consists of licensed therapists, life coaches, and counselors. We assist clients with self-improvement, career development, negative self-talk, psychological pain, self-sabotaging behavior, past hurts and finding your purpose. If you are ready to increase your self-awareness and happiness, breakthrough limiting behavior and understand your purpose in life, we’d love to help guide you on this journey.