In the last blog, we began the topic of falling in love again with your partner. This week, we’re continuing the topic and focusing on more ways to fall in love with your partner again and to rekindle your relationship.
When you’re constantly busy, stressed, or distant from your partner, it’s easy to be less physical with one another. Make a conscious effort to not forget, postpone, or avoid physical affection. Physical affection is an expression of love that can strengthen the bond between you and your partner. Physical affection can release oxytocin and dopamine. This hormone and this neurotransmitter are responsible for feeling closer to your partner, for building trust, and happiness.
Ignoring your partner may not always be intentional and with many other distractions in life, it can happen so easily and if you’re already frustrated with your partner, it’s easy to not pay attention to them. Make an effort to slow down and be more attentive. Look directly in your partner’s eyes when they’re speaking, put away electronic gadgets sometimes, and listen without interrupting or planning your next response. Your partner’s facial expressions, gestures, and body language could all be missed with your head down on your phone. As much as possible, be attentive to your partner’s nonverbal communication also.
Spending quality time with your partner is very valuable. Many couples don’t recognize that dedicating time to one another can nurture relationships by building intimacy, opening up the line of communication and strengthening bonds. Schedule date nights and alone time in your calendar. Take turns planning them with your partner and be sure to plan dates that you’d both enjoy. When conversing with one another during this alone time, stick to light, friendly topics, such as new hobbies & interests. Save talking about kids, bills, and relationship issues for another non-date night. Sometimes, date night might not seem feasible due to finances, scheduling, & other responsibilities, but remember that you can have a date night anywhere. You can bring a romantic night right to your home with dinner and a movie.
Commitment is one of the foundations of serious relationships. Be committed to your relationship goals. Stay committed to being attentive, to showing physical affection, and planning date nights. Always be committed to nurturing your relationship. Whatever you agree on with your partner, commit to it.
Don’t assume that falling out of love means that it’s time to end the relationship. In relationships (especially relationships in trouble), falling out of love is very common. It’s critical to remember that at the beginning of your relationship, there were certain actions, made by both you and your partner, that caused you to fall in love. The same is true for falling back in love. The only difference is that now, you must be more deliberate and intentional.
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