If communicating with your partner is challenging, try using the communication tools listed below. They may not always be easy to do, but the steps are simple, and the effects could greatly improve the quality of your relationship.
One of the best times to lovingly touch your partner is when you’re about to discuss a topic that could potentially have different opinions. It’s more difficult to do so if the disagreement has already begun. Loving, physical touch can be a deterrent from arguing and according to Medicalnewstoday.com, it can produce more of oxytocin, “the love hormone”, resulting in feeling less stressed, less anxious, and more relaxed.
In today’s society, technology can be an effective tool for communication. But like any tool, it can be misused. It’s difficult to give your partner your undivided attention if you’re distracted by a screen. It’s also easy for your partner to feel you aren’t paying attention. Communication isn’t limited to the exchanging of words. Communication also includes facial expressions., i,e, nonverbal communication. Nonverbal communication is just as important as other forms of communication. Nonverbal communication like eye contact, facial expressions, gestures, body language, and posture could all be missed if you or your partner constantly stare at a screen. When you’re speaking to one another, remember to turn your attention away from any electronic devices with a screen and give your undivided attention. Also, try keeping your phones in your pockets/purses or on the side of the table, facing down when you’re out on dates.
Technology can be a useful tool for communication in some cases. Sending flirty or funny texts that make your partner feel special lets them know they’re on your mind. Schedule at-home date nights to watch movies/shows that you both enjoy. During the times you simply want to wind down, invite your partner to join you to watch your favorite shows. As simple as this invitation may be, sometimes it’s the simple gestures that make our partners know we still desire them.
POSITIVE AFFIRMATIONS & REMINDERS
During the beginning of relationships, love can feel new, exciting, and so magical, but over the years, you may start to notice things you didn’t notice before-or maybe you did notice them, but they weren’t as pronounced. It could be your partner not taking care of their health, your partner constantly losing items, snoring, leaving the toilet seat up, or even loud chewing. Some of these may sound ridiculous or funny, but over time, a pattern of these behaviors could drive you insane and make you not like your partner.
The wonderful things that made you fall in love are still there. You just have to remember them and not allow the annoying little habits to change your feelings.
Every few days, write down a few things about your partner that you are grateful for. After a month, show it to them. This practice will keep the positive aspects of your partner on your mind and make your partner feel appreciated. As a result, your partner could feel encouraged & motivated to do more of what you like. It’s a win for everyone!
Reaffirm your relationship during the conflict, by making statements such as “ I’m really upset with you, but I still love you, and I’m not leaving. This affirmation will be a reminder for you and give reassurance to your partner.
Make a conscious effort to not go ranting on about your partner when you’re upset. It’s so easy to complain and vent about your partner to your friends and family. Some of this news of your venting could even travel to your partner, which could cause arguments. Rather than getting trapped in the cycle of complaining or venting, seek help from a therapist or counselor.
If you’ve tried multiple times, but haven’t noticed long-lasting effects, or if you’re having second thoughts, it’s time to speak with a
seek help from a therapist or counselor..
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