Women and Sex: The Cold, Hard Facts.

Men are from Mars and women are from Venus. We’ve all heard that phrase before. It’s just another way of saying that men and women could not be any more different.  Did you know that women have a larger hippo-campus? The hippo-campus is where humans store memories. Perhaps this is why women can recall every word of an argument from years ago! Even music affects us differently. Premature baby girls who received music therapy had fewer complications, grew faster and were able to be discharged earlier than the ones that did not. There was no effect on premature baby boys (Sax, Leonard. “Why Gender Matters” 16). Sometimes, Many women need specific conditions, in order to be sexually aroused..Let’s explore …

Many Men View sex for it’s Physical Aspect.

Often, men tend to prioritize sex over other aspects in the relationship compared to women. Some women, however, view sex as an activity to support the relationship and bring closeness emotionally. Understand, however, that plenty of women do enjoy sex for physical pleasures as well. With women, the emotional aspects are just more emphasized than men.

Let’s Talk About Orgasms!

There has been scientific evidence indicating that the key for women to reach the heights of orgasmic bliss is a deep sense of relaxation and a lack of anxiety. Brain scans have shown that the parts of women’s brains responsible for processing fear, anxiety and emotion slowed down the more aroused they became, producing a trancelike state at orgasm. A trancelike state at orgasm? Doesn’t that sound blissful!?
What’s  even more interesting is that men showed far less change in these areas of the brain, suggesting that women need to relax to become aroused, while men? Not as much. 

Other differences include the fact that men have a point of what we call “ejaculatory inevitability” during sex when they can’t hold back from an orgasm, no matter what.. Most men have an “ejaculatory threshold,” which is the amount of stimulation they can experience before reaching this “point of no return.”
But women, on the other hand, don’t experience ejaculatory inevitability. A woman can “lose” an orgasm even as it’s happening! Can you believe that!? AS it’s happening?

As horrible as some of this information seems, there are pros and cons to both situations. Sure, it can be tougher for some women to climax, especially if they’re distracted. However, women are able to enjoy multiple orgasms and women have rarely been accused of coming “too fast.”
Yes, orgasmic bliss is more of a sure thing for guys, but it has its own downside. It’s easy for some men to pass that point of ejaculatory inevitability sooner than they — and their partners — would like and that’s called premature ejaculation.

Communicate

Though men and women are so incredibly different, these differences don’t make one gender better or worse with sex,  It also doesn’t make one person’s way “right” and the other “wrong.” There are so many positive ways to view our differences that can improve our relationship with our partners.  These differences can provide an opportunity for partners to work together with mutual respect and thoughtfulness, in order to better serve one another and to reach a healthy solution, together.

Sexual bliss begins with understanding and respecting your differences.

Remember that nothing is 100%. Some people may be different.  I suggest having good and open communication with your partner about his/her needs, desires and apprehensions. Better communication can create better sex. And it can really improve other aspects of your relationship. …So talk and watch things becoming better in the bedroom.

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